There was a time that being a mean girl was cute. She was popular, intimidating, a show stopper, and everybody wanted to be her friend.
In high school, all of the standards are set. You knew who to talk to, who not to talk to and who to fear. Ironically, I found myself watching the 2004 movie, “Mean Girls,” in order to reexamine life in high school. Despite the fabrication of the story lines and characters, one thing was for sure: The mean girl in charge could do whatever they wanted and no one could say anything. The funny thing is that people really expect to continue on through life with this attitude and don’t consider growing up an option.
People like to be heard, acknowledged and recognized at one point or another. We humans thrive on attention and interaction. High school allows people to shine in certain contexts. However, just like one must graduate high school, the ways of the mean girl should be left behind. Carrying on with the same attitude into adulthood is anything but a wise choice to make for more reasons than one.
For starters, when you go off to college or start a new job, no one is going to care if you were the glamorous powerhouse back in high school. In fact, has the mean girl ever considered why she was so mean? It’s ironic that she is so quick to pull an evil deed on someone or exploit any friend or foe that makes a challenge against her manifesto.
Another teen movie that shows a perfect example of a mean girl’s behavior is Seventeen Again. I’m not talking about the big screen movie with Zac Efron. I’m referring to the 2000 movie with Tia, Tamera, and Tahj Mowry. The mean girl in this movie was Ashley, played by Maia Campbell. She was the head cheerleader who wouldn’t give the time of day to new girl, Sydney, played by Tia (Hardrict). As Sydney began hanging out with Ashley’s brother, she made it known that she wouldn’t tolerate Sydney so much as looking as him under her teen dream populace rule.
See, Ashley considered Sydney a threat to her and her cheer squad. Though Sydney was a great dancer, Ashley feared someone new taking her high position that she felt she earned and worked hard to get. Long story short, in the movie, Ashley eventually learned that just like she was a force not be be reckoned with, the same went for Sydney as well.
Being a mean girl starts to become outdated and overrated when:
• a girl is showing signs of maturity
• the oppressor (mean girl) tried to break you down or harass you by trying to bring up old embarrassing times of junior high or high school just for laughs
• you ignore the nonsensical judgment calls and focus on what you need to do, or
• when the girl puts the mean girl in her place, especially if she’s asking for it.
Being a mean girl will not get you anywhere beyond the realms of high school. After all, when that high school reunion comes, I’m sure you would want to show your peers how the mean streak has faded over time.